It seems infidelity is everywhere you look, when you are willing to look for it. I will admit, I was much happier in my blissful place of ignorace….or was I? Some days I think I was, but I think I know better. I much prefer being enlightened by the knowledge of tragedy than to be in the dark and clueless.
I was clueless for a long time about affairs. I knew they happened, but they were rare, and they happened to other people. Now, it seems, I know as many people who have been unfaithful as those who haven’t. And, since most don’t talk about it, I am sure there are many, who I think haven’t, who HAVE or who ARE engaging in extramarital relationships. My father was one of them. My father in law was one of them. My husband. My husband’s best friend. My husband’s work colleague. It’s everywhere. and it is disgusting.
What’s worse than the natural tendency nowadays to throw away our marriages, and the vows we committed to, is the fact that society seems to make it so easy to cheat. There are agencies designed specifically to arrange hookups between married individuals (Ashley Madison, for example). There are television shows that glorify the existence of mistresses and their conquests (Mistresses), songs that talk about competing for another woman’s partner (Girlfriend, by Avril Lavigne, You make me wanna, by Usher, I like it, by Enrique Iglesias (video). There are countless others, and I’ve blogged about them previously.
Throw into the mix, now, apps that allow you to hide secret images on your phone, a hidden black book, etc. all disguised as the calculator that comes standard on the iPhone. So now, if you have any reasons to be suspicious that something is going on, and you happen to check your partner’s phone, you may wish to look for apps that look like this:
On the outside at quick glance, these look like your standard calculator, but clicking on them reveals things underneath that open an entire secret stash of goodies you were never meant to see.
How do you know if it’s the real thing? Try deleting the app. Hold it down and if that little white jiggling x appears, you’ve found gold. iPhone doesn’t allow the standard apps that come with the phone to be deleted; things like stocks, ibooks, calendar, calculator, etc). If it doesn’t jiggle, and can’t be deleted, it’s the real thing.
Here are some to look at:
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These apps won’t always be disguised as a calculator. They can also be disguised as a Stocks app.
Technology makes life easier in so many ways, and is our friend in so many ways. It is also our foe and contributes to tremendous damage, when we let it.
Now, some may slam me for even pointing these out, suggesting that by posting them, I’ve given some reader the tools to commit infidelity, and by posting these, I’ve somehow contributed to their actions. To that I say “where there is a will, there is a way”, and if they are looking online for ways to cheat and hide their tracks, this blog has far fewer resources than a simple google search for “apps for infidelity” bring up. If anyone is looking to cheat badly enough, they will come to those resources all on their own. I post this to help share the knowledge of whats out there, for those who blindly trust, or for those who suspect something is amiss, but have no proof.